THERE IS LIFE AFTER DIVORCE

Posted: January 10, 2014 in Uncategorized
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2 Corinthians 5:17 “He that is in Christ is a new creature, old things have passed away, behold all things are brand new.”

 

Lately I’ve had many people ask me this question regarding divorce and remarriage. The belief was, to whom they were told, that once a person gets a divorce that’s it, there is no life, no opportunity for remarriage under God’s word. But is that true? Or is that religion?

In Matthew 19:1-11, we read of certain scribes (Pharisees) who came to tempt the Lord over the matter of divorce. In their attempt to snare Jesus concerning the matter of divorce and remarriage, they asked him, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?” To which Jesus replied,
Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’?So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.” So Jesus confirmed that marriage was indeed God’s perfect and natural design for mankind to follow. But the Pharisee’s, not satisfied with Christ’s answer, tempted him again, “Why then,” they asked, “did Moses command that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send her away?” That was the trap, to which Jesus saw through it. “Moses permitted you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. But it was not this way from the beginning. I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.”

The plan the Pharisee’s schemed had failed. So what was Jesus referring to then as it regards divorce? If one notices in the original KJV, in verse 9, the key word here is “put away”, which in translation means to give a letter (or contract) to end a marriage between the two. Jesus was not rejecting the law set down by Moses, given to him by God, for in Deut. 24:1-3, Moses was making it clear, IF a man found something he deemed “unclean” in his wife, he was to give her a letter of divorce, meaning, the husband must give a woman a CERTIFICATE of divorce, put it into her hand so that she could freely go and marry another. However, it was under a very strict code of conduct. The Jews during Jesus’ day were NOT living by that law of Moses, actually, what they were doing was actually contrary to the law itself, they were actually not giving a woman a certificate of divorce, nor were they allowing the woman to go in peace and be free to re-marry, yet they themselves were keeping her (the woman put away) in a position of “limbo” meaning, the woman who had been turned away by her husband, was not given a certificate or letter of divorce, so no one could consider her favorable for marriage. Yet the man was going off and marrying, remarrying as he pleased, this was wrong and Jesus knew it, which is why he corrected them, and why they rejected him!

So what about the person who is in Christ, or, who was in the world, who was married and found themselves divorced? Can they remarry? Yes! They can, if they so choose to. It must be understood by all that when we come to Christ, every sin, every action before the cross, once confession is made, is now forgiven and forgotten (Hebrews 8:12). This means, in the literal sense, their past is in fact that – in the past. So if God no longer remembers their sin, why should we? This includes divorce!

If someone finds themselves in the unfortunate situation of divorce, please understand that God has forgiven them and that when God forgives, he opens new doors of life and happiness. As Paul spoke at great lengths in 1 Corinthians 7:10-15, there are causes for divorce, from betrayal, abuse, or even unbelief, God allows someone to separate and if reconciliation is not possible, then divorce is acceptable, because if two cannot dwell together in peace, but due to wrong (or sin) and that situation simply cannot be rectified, then God permits divorce.

God’s original plan was never divorce, but God also knows people are human beings, full of frailty and weakness, and thru mercy and compassion, God puts together a guideline that we can follow which will remedy such situations, including the necessity of divorce.

So what about those whose lives have been radically changed or altered by divorce, can they remarry? Once again, the answer is YES! Because if a person has done nothing wrong, then they are free to move on in their life, even though the divorce was painful, they are free to walk in the liberty God has provided. That is the mercy of God thru Christ and what was paid for on the cross.

Religion will often times try to confine people into a narrow road, keeping them bound in chains God never intended, that is the destructive power of religion. But in Christ we have freedom, liberty and forgiveness, and while a marriage might not be redeemed again, we have the grace of God thru Jesus Christ to begin again in him, allowing him to guide us in all areas, including the right to remarry.

 

Christopher

 

Comments
  1. Romans 3:31 Do we then make void the law through faith? God forbid: yea, we establish the law.

  2. billy says:

    So, it’s “okay” that my now ex-wife, divorced me, although I had not committed adultery and my faith/spirituality in God was clearly greater than hers, and during the this she was professing to be a Christian and saved (reborn)? She actually told my son before she deserted us all that “God has already forgiven her”. So that’s the way “things work”? All that was “okay”?

    • It’s not okay, but if she repented and confessed that sin, is she not forgiven? People make terrible mistakes in their life, sometimes tragic mistakes, but if they repent – truly repent, then God is faithful and just to forgive us of our sins, when we repent. Then we learn from those mistakes and we move forward. That is the work of the cross.

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