Posted: September 11, 2016 in HOT TOPICS, Uncategorized


“Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and sin which does so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us.” (Hebrews 12:1)


One of the more harder aspects of life here on earth that draws a dark shadow over every person born, is that every person will one day die. Yet in that same mindset of the realization of death, there is nothing more saddening in life than the death of a loved one. Death is simply part of our life. The knowing that at some point every person born will eventually die. From unborns, or children, to young adults and the elderly, the stark reality is that death comes to all and all come to death. But for the Christian who has faced the death of a loved one who died in Christ, there is a constant question that often comes to mind, and that question continues to unfold for millions upon millions of believers, do they miss us once they are gone?

It’s been over one year now since my grandmother has passed, 27 years since the passing of my Father, and eight years since the passing of my grandfather. In each of those periods, there has not been a day goes by that I don’t, in some manner, recall them from memory. They were apart of my life, and interwoven framework that only God could weave together. Yet while time has certainly passed since their departure from this world, and while their presence has been greatly diminished because of death, still, I often find myself asking that same question many have to those whom they loved and knew who have died. Do they remember us? Do they miss us? Or do they have no remembrance at all?

For years it’s been the tradition of preachers and Denominations that when asked this particular question about ‘Do the dead remember?’ the answer was almost always vague, and generally answered Ecc. 9:5,6 “For the living know that they shall die: but the dead know not anything, neither have they any more a reward; for the memory of them is forgotten. As well their love, as their hatred and their envy, is perished long ago; neither have they any more a portion for ever in anything that is done under the sun” (Eccl. 9:5-6)

The idea (they say) is that the dead know nothing, meaning, in this life and the next. But is that true according to scripture? Not when we rightly divide the word. When we examine the scriptures, and even though there is very little we do know about those who do die in the faith, we can build a clear picture of a more greater thought than what we have been told, that the dead (in Christ) not only do remember the past, they very well remember us!

One of the more clearer pictures of those who have died in Christ can be found in Luke 16: 27-28, where the rich man died and remembered his brothers who were still alive in the realm of the living. Even in Revelation 6:10, we have the saints who were martyred for their faith, who plead before God at his throne to remember their life which was taken that they were clearly had in their knowledge from their life on earth in the past;“How long, O Master, the holy and true, [will it be] before you judge and avenge our blood upon those who dwell upon the earth?” (Rev. 6:10).

When we examine the word clearly, we can see something being drawn out to us that we must continue to remember, that life does not end just because the body ceases to exist, but that man is made up of three components, spirit, soul and body. In each of these aspects of the human framework, God has given man not only the ability to have emotions, to think, or even reproduce, he has given man a mind that will remember long after they have departed this world. Keep in mind, we are after all humans, and it is our very nature to ask questions, be curious about things, long for things, and even hurt at times, yet in that same breath, we also have the common knowledge of stored up memories which I believe in the word clearly indicates that will in fact follow us in the life to come.

The Apostle Paul states something very clear in 2 Corinthians 5:10 “For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each one may receive what is due for what he has done in the body, whether good or evil.” Here we have something very profound Paul is revealing to us, that in the eternal future, every believer who has ever lived for Christ, died in Christ, will stand before Christ to answer for his/her actions on this earth, how can they answer or receive their eternal reward, or even lose their reward if they cannot remember? They can because they do! They (we) will remember. So do they who have died before us in Christ remember us now in heaven? The answer is a clear YES! They not only remember, but they long for us as well! This is why Paul equally stated in his letter to the church that he was in between two hard places, one to remain, while the other to be with the Lord. The fact is, Paul went to heaven in a vision. Paul saw things which were not lawful for him to repeat, nor did he write them down for us to remember, it was enough for us to know that whatever Paul saw, heaven and those who live there among Christ and God our Father, is beyond our comprehension. Yet in that same understanding, he too understood that life here is but a vapor compared to that hope for every person who walks in Christ.

So if our departed friends and family remember us here on earth, are they sad? Do they desire to come and see us or make contact? The answer is no. While it is clear that scripture does support the dead in Christ remembers their loved ones, that does not mean, nor implies they seek to contact us, and for good reason, God forbids it, but even more so, their mindset has been changed, radically changed by Christ. For when we die in Jesus, everything changes, we lose every earthly sensation, longing or desire, but that does not mean we lose the memories, we just take on the consciousness of Christ. This means that there is no fear, pain or sadness in heaven, but I do believe that what our loved ones do long for is our reunion. That is the desire to which every believer who walks the streets of glory this day is longing for, the completion of life on earth so that eternity can begin – with our loved ones.

Think of it, every child who died still born is longing for their parents. Every son or daughter who has gone on to be with the Lord that died at an early age is longing to be reunited with their Mother and Father. Every grandparent, husband and/or wife who died while the other lived, seeks for that blessed hope that awaits them in the future. Paul stated that one day we will be known as we were known (1 Cor. 13:12), how can we be known if we had no remembrance of others? The truth is, the fact remains, every person who has died before us, remembers us, thinks about us and longs for us to continue in the faith so that we will be reunited once again in heaven. Yet it’s a perfect longing, not a sad one that only God could instill into each person.

So do they remember us? Yes they do. Do they long for us? There is no question that they do. Do they miss us? Absolutely. Yet we have that blessed hope that if we remain faithful in Christ, we shall see them once more, never to depart again, and together we shall worship God in perfect harmony.

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  1. Barbara farr says:

    I have never seen it this way Christopher but it sure made sense. It’s good to know. I pray all the time that my son made it.

  2. H. says:


    First, sorry for my English.

    I’ve always seen the cloud of witnesses in Hebrews 12:1 as all the God’s angels. I draw a parallel to the verse 1 Peter 1:12 which talks about the angels who are watching us all the time “It was revealed to them that they were not serving themselves but you, when they spoke of the things that have now been told you by those who have preached the gospel to you by the Holy Spirit sent from heaven. Even angels long to look into these things.”

    What if the man who died in Christ longs to meet his family again, but neither of them is saved eventually? How can he rejoice and be happy in Heaven when he will see his entire family burning in Hell? Can you do that? God promised that He will wipe every tear from our eyes (Revelation 21:4).

    I believe that we will not remember the things that aren’t necessary. In Heaven we won’t be “the Jackson family” and “the Smiths”. We’ll be all one in Christ. We won’t remember who was our mother/sister/uncle etc. Everything will be about God, and we will be like angels, praising the Lord like one breath.

    Isaiah 65:17
    See, I will create
    new heavens and a new earth.
    The former things will not be remembered,
    nor will they come to mind.

  3. Dympna Scott says:

    My Father died five weeks ago today and it goes without saying that I miss him so much every day and long to see him again in Heaven. I have been going through the motions of daily living, work etc since his passing, almost in a trance like state but your message has brought so much consolation and hope to me and has helped me to accept his passing and to live the rest of my life however long that may be, fully.

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